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Lelei

Shy
I find it hard to work with youth who are shy and are not opening up or speaking about what the are facing in life or what they would like. What should i do? Help needed here. Peace

August 5, 2005 | 4:00 AM

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	Francis Awinda August 5, 2005 \| 1:54 AM

I think you need to understand the source of their shyness..is it the way you express yourself to them in terms of attitude or what? i would suggest that when dealing with them don't bring the issue of shyness coz they know its a problem to them and when maybe you are discussing and you keep on saying 'don't be shy' you keep on allienating them and making the situation worse.Shy people get intimidated by people with easy going nature another approach will be to bring yourself to their level and tackling their problems in equal terms..my opinion!

	Bitsy August 5, 2005 \| 5:17 AM

Hi Lelei, I mostly agree with the previous comment. I was terminally shy when I was younger and I was scared of people. The worst thing you can do is to put the shy ones "on the spot," or push them to talk to you. You must give them space, but not ignore them either. Respect that at this moment they do not want to talk to you, but pay attention to them in other ways, where they or their problems are not the focus of attention. You must win their trust first. It would be easier to know what to do if I knew what the context of this situation was. If you know anything about the individual's life, homelife etc., you could probably easily feel what in that situation has caused them to be shy and withdrawn and then you could behave with them accordingly, so that they would come to trust you.

	Lelei August 8, 2005 \| 9:34 PM

THANK YOU Thank you Lucia and Francis, I appreciate everything you have shared. I will take into account and use it in my work. Take care Peace

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